Do I really hate something?

Hello again!

I just listen to "7 things" by Miley Cyrus... yeah I know... I was curious about it so yeah here we go. I was kind of surprised (not sure in a good or bad way) of how the video was shot. It wasn't a bad video but I am not sure it's quite age appropriate and I am not sure it is a good way to tell others that you hate something about someone. Or let some teenagers crying a lot over the long lost love. I mean... they look very young like 12 or 13 or something. If Miley really wants to venture out to the new territory, maybe she should has cast someone else a little bit older to fit the song better. It's just weird seeing such young girl crying over something that probably did not last for probably 1 month or so. Anyway... this post is not about the song but it's about the word that I heard repeatedly "hate".

Obviously, I guess I was the same when I was at that age. I hated this, I really hated that. or Oh my, I can't stand something like that... I hated it so much... As I grow older, I realize my tolerance has increased significantly and there is really nothing that deserve the word "hate." And I decided to write about the word "hate."

Sometimes, I realize we take words for granted. We said we love something. We said we really love someone. But really... are those emotion real? Do we really need to go to the extreme like that? You can like a TV but do you really have to love your TV? Same goes with "hate."

I used to say... gosh.. if someone does that to me, I would hate them for the rest of my life. Just for your knowledge, that was when I was in my late teen... so the rest of my life would be a very long time (assuming I have a long life ahead of me). But I have to say those emotion go away after a while. So now, I can't really say I hate anything or anyone anymore because I know I can't have that emotion for long. And I also realize... as long as you don't make a point in hating something, you will not hate it. We only make ourself hate something by keep on thinking about it and making it a big deal out of all the things happening around it.


So my life has been a lot easier nowadays not having to hate everything around me for example: having a broken heart, losing my material, not having enough money, or having to work too hard etc. Things are just the way they are. Even if I hate it, there is nothing I can do about it to make it different. If someone on the street yelled at me for no reason, I can't go and tell them hey stop because I hate it when you said that. Because that person might be sick and didn't know what he/she was saying. I could actually hurt myself if I do that in case the person is not mentally stable and physically stronger than I am.

In addition, "hate" is just a strong word that I don't want to use very often. Even if my exes broke up with me, I can't really say I hate my exes because you know it's their choice. We had good times and bad times together. They have done inappropriate things that I didn't approve and I might have done the same. In the end, we are human and we are not perfect. Instead of thinking about it or hating it, I just take it as it is and go on with my life. It took a lot of energy to hate something or someone because you kept on thinking about it.

I know it's easy to say. I've been through it and it's very hard to do. You kept thinking about them and you think about all the good times and how did they forget about all that.. etc... Then I can't stop crying and keep on hoping maybe it will work, maybe we will try again... But as we all know, thinking about it is a waste of time. Our time is so precious that it cannot be lost just like that. And as we all know, even as we spend time fascinating ourself with all the possibilities, they are not true. Then our anger over a person becomes stronger and starts asking why... why this... why that... etc.. Then we say.. gosh, I hate that person. But really, you have loved or like that person before. So... our emotion can change and that goes with hate and anger as well. Just let time cooling it off before we decide to do anything that could further damage the relationship.

Thinking about the past is not the future ;)

So before you decide to hate something... think again... do you really hate it? or is it just a momentarily emotion that triggers the anger in you to say it? Because we all know, they all do go away after awhile. So instead of hurting the broken relationship even more, just calmly accept it and go on with life. :)

Good luck ;)